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Never Make a Permanent Decision Based on a Temporary Emotion – A Lesson in Emotional Wisdom

"Some of the most painful chapters of our lives were written in the heat of a moment we never cooled down from."

We’ve all been there.

Moments when your heart is racing, your hands are trembling, and your mind screams louder than your logic.
Moments when you want to quit the job, block the person, end the relationship, say the harshest thing — just to feel better for a second.

But one second of emotional chaos can cause a lifetime of regret.




🔥 The Power (and Danger) of Temporary Emotions

Emotions are not the enemy.
They are messages, not commands.

But when they control our decisions, we often end up:

  • Sending a resignation we didn’t mean

  • Saying goodbye we later mourn

  • Breaking what could’ve been fixed

  • Choosing silence where a hug was needed

  • Making permanent scars in relationships or careers


💔 A Story I’ll Never Forget

There was a time when I felt betrayed by a close friend. I was hurt, angry, and felt completely misunderstood.
I blocked them without a word, deleted every photo, and told myself I didn’t care.

Weeks later, when the storm inside settled, I missed them. I missed us.
But by then, they had accepted my silence as closure.

I made a permanent decision in a moment of pain — and lost something irreplaceable.


🧘‍♀️ What I’ve Learned Since Then

1. Wait 24 Hours Before Responding in Emotion
Whether it’s a fight, an insult, or an urge to walk away — wait a day.
The truth feels different when you’re calm.

2. Write it Before You Say it
Journaling or drafting a message (without sending) helps filter emotion from ego.

3. Ask: “Is this Emotion True or Just Loud?”
Pain shouts. Insecurity screams. But they’re not always telling the truth.

4. Think in Years, Not Minutes
Will this matter in 1 week? 1 year?
Will this person still matter when you're not angry?


🕊️ Forgiveness Can Be Healing

Forgive yourself for the decisions made in storms.
But learn from them — that’s how you grow.

And if you can, reach out to the ones you hurt. Even if the bond is broken, closure can still bring peace.


✉️ A Letter to My Emotional Self

Dear Me,
I know you feel everything deeply — that’s your strength.
But please remember: not every feeling needs a reaction.

Don’t let a bad hour destroy a beautiful bond.
Don’t let pride answer when pain is speaking.

Pause. Breathe. Let time carry you back to yourself.

– Love, The You Who Learns Slowly but Surely


🌷 Final Thought

Making decisions in anger, heartbreak, or fear is like trying to paint during an earthquake — the result will always be messy.


Choose peace first. Decide later.

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