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Why Being Selfish Is Sometimes Necessary – The Power of Choosing Yourself

🌿 Why Being Selfish Is Sometimes Necessary Choosing Yourself Is Not a Sin — It’s a Survival Skill For years, we’ve been taught that being “selfless” is a virtue — that putting others before ourselves is the definition of love. But what if being selfless all the time… leaves you empty? What if choosing yourself isn’t selfish at all — but an act of healing ? 🪞 What Does “Selfish” Really Mean? Being selfish is often misunderstood. It’s not: Ignoring everyone’s feelings Acting without empathy Abandoning kindness It is : Saying “no” without guilt Protecting your mental health Refusing to pour from an empty cup Being selfish sometimes… just means being honest with yourself. 🧠 Why Choosing Yourself Feels So Hard If you’re a giver, a people-pleaser, or someone raised to keep peace — this part will feel familiar. You overextend yourself to avoid conflict You say “yes” because “no” feels rude You shrink your needs to avoid being “too much” ...