Raw And Real with Sakshi

  Love Yourself First – Before You Expect It From Others In a world that constantly demands more from us — more patience, more love, more sacrifice — we often forget to give the most important gift to ourselves: our own love . You cannot pour from an empty cup. If you are always giving, always bending, always trying to prove your worth to others, you will eventually feel drained, unseen, and unappreciated. The truth is simple yet powerful: the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life . Why Loving Yourself Isn’t Selfish Many people fear that self-love will make them arrogant or distant. But healthy self-love isn’t about thinking you’re better than others — it’s about respecting yourself enough to: Set boundaries Say no when needed Choose people who value you Walk away from what hurts you When you truly love yourself, you stop begging for scraps of affection. You stop chasing people who make you feel small. And y...

  Sometimes, love isn't the missing piece. You gave them your heart, your time, your loyalty—and still, they cheated. Not because you weren’t enough, but because something inside them wasn’t. This post isn’t just about betrayal. It’s about understanding the why behind infidelity that feels senseless. It's about healing without blaming yourself for someone else's choices. 💔 When Love Isn’t the Problem Cheating often isn’t a reflection of how much love was present in a relationship—it’s a reflection of what’s missing inside the person who strayed. Here’s what cheating is sometimes really about: Emotional Avoidance: Some people use affairs to escape from facing their own wounds, insecurities, or unresolved trauma. Addiction to Novelty: They crave newness—not because they’re unfulfilled by you, but because they’re running from routine, even stability. Ego Boosts: Flirting, attention, or the thrill of secrecy can temporarily fill a deep void in their self-e...

🧠 What Is Emotional Anesthesia? Emotional anaesthesia isn’t a medical term — it’s a psychological reality. It’s that deep, hollow numbness you feel when life gets too heavy, and instead of breaking down... You just shut down . Joy doesn’t excite you Grief doesn’t move you You laugh, but it doesn’t reach your soul We often associate pain with loud emotions. But sometimes, the scariest pain is silence — when you feel nothing at all . 🌪️ Why Does Emotional Anesthesia Happen? This state is often your brain’s coping mechanism . When you’re constantly battling stress, trauma, or grief, your body enters emotional survival mode . It numbs you to protect you. 💥 Common Triggers: Long-term burnout Suppressed heartbreak Childhood trauma Repeated rejection Silent grief Anxiety or depression 🧩 Signs You Might Be Emotionally Numb Numbness isn’t always obvious — it whispers. Here’s how it may look: You feel disconnected from your own life Deep conversati...

"Some of the most painful chapters of our lives were written in the heat of a moment we never cooled down from."

🌿 Why Being Selfish Is Sometimes Necessary Choosing Yourself Is Not a Sin — It’s a Survival Skill For years, we’ve been taught that being “selfless” is a virtue — that putting others before ourselves is the definition of love. But what if being selfless all the time… leaves you empty? What if choosing yourself isn’t selfish at all — but an act of healing ? 🪞 What Does “Selfish” Really Mean? Being selfish is often misunderstood. It’s not: Ignoring everyone’s feelings Acting without empathy Abandoning kindness It is : Saying “no” without guilt Protecting your mental health Refusing to pour from an empty cup Being selfish sometimes… just means being honest with yourself. 🧠 Why Choosing Yourself Feels So Hard If you’re a giver, a people-pleaser, or someone raised to keep peace — this part will feel familiar. You overextend yourself to avoid conflict You say “yes” because “no” feels rude You shrink your needs to avoid being “too much” ...

Yoga — the word itself feels so serene, right? You picture a peaceful morning, fresh air, a calm mind, and the perfect downward dog. Instagram is full of gorgeous shots of people gracefully flowing through poses like dancers. But then… reality hits. If you’ve ever tried yoga in your living room and found yourself tangled like a pretzel or falling flat during “Tree Pose,” you’re not alone. This blog post (and comic!) is a lighthearted look at what we expect yoga to be like versus what it’s actually like when we try it for ourselves. 😅 When Your Body Doesn’t Match the YouTube Video In the comic above, I captured one of the most relatable yoga moments — trying to mirror a calm, stable pose, and wobbling uncontrollably instead. You watch the instructor float into balance with their eyes closed, while you're blinking in confusion, wondering which leg goes where. That’s the funny part about self-growth practices like yoga. We think we’ll be perfect at it. But healing isn’t always ele...

Love is one of the most powerful emotions we can experience. But it’s also one of the most misunderstood. Many believe that simply loving someone deeply is enough to sustain a relationship. Unfortunately, that’s not always true. Unexpressed love can still leave someone feeling lonely, neglected, or unloved. In this post, we’ll explore why love must be shown, not just felt , and how this truth can make or break a relationship. ❤️ Why Just Feeling Love Isn’t Enough You might love someone more than words can say. But unless that love is expressed through actions, it can go unnoticed. Relationships thrive on communication, consistency, and care — not assumptions. “I know you loved me. You just never made me feel it.” That sentence ends more relationships than betrayal ever could. 🚨 The Hidden Damage of Unspoken Love When you don’t show love: Your partner may feel emotionally unsafe They may start questioning their worth or your commitment Resentment can quietly build ...

Breakups are never easy. Whether it ended suddenly or after a long, difficult road, emotional pain is a natural part of separation. Healing takes time, intention, and compassion—especially for yourself. In this guide, we'll explore practical and empowering steps to help you emotionally heal after a breakup. EMOTIONAL HEALING AFTER BREAKUP 

  🌿 There Is No Tomorrow (A Spiritual Reflection) In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna reminds Arjuna: "You have a right to your actions, but not to the fruits thereof." We live entangled in outcomes— waiting for peace to arrive once success is achieved, postponing joy until we’ve healed, delaying truth until it’s convenient. But life, in its truest form, exists only in the present karmic moment . There is no tomorrow. Not in the way we romanticise it. Tomorrow is a shadow of the now— a concept created by the mind to comfort our indecision. But the soul knows better. It knows that breath, awareness, and action exist only here . We postpone love because we fear rejection. We defer forgiveness, waiting for perfect closure. We delay purpose, waiting for a clearer sign. But these are illusions. The universe never guaranteed us another sunrise. 🌸 Today is sacred. This moment is your dharma in motion. This silence, this ache, this joy— they are not preludes t...

  The Weight of Unspoken Pain There are wounds that never make a sound — the kind you carry deep within, where no one else can see. They don’t bleed, but they ache. They don’t scream, but they drain you slowly. Silent pain can be the heaviest because it’s yours alone to hold. No one else shares its weight, and no one else can read the battles written in your eyes. ( Related reading: Emotional Anesthesia – Feeling Numb and Healing ) Why We Stay Silent We often hide our pain because we fear judgment, rejection, or burdening the people we love. Sometimes, we can’t find the words to describe what’s breaking us. “Maybe it’s not that big of a deal.” “Others have it worse.” “I should be stronger.” But silence, while it feels safe, can also become a prison. It keeps us from the help, understanding, and healing we deserve. ( Related reading: Love Yourself First ) Steps Toward Opening Up Find Your Safe Person – Someone who listens without judgment. Write It Out – Journali...

When Life Changes in a Moment One moment you feel in control, and the next, everything shifts. Life has a way of surprising us — sometimes in ways we never saw coming. These moments can be heartbreaking, overwhelming, or even liberating. But no matter how they arrive, they leave behind lessons we carry forever. Life’s Unpredictable Nature Change often comes without warning. A single decision, an unexpected event, or a sudden loss can alter our path completely. These experiences teach us that control is often an illusion — and that flexibility is the real strength. ( Related reading: Change Your Thinking, Discover a New You ) Finding Calm in Chaos When everything feels uncertain, finding small anchors of stability becomes essential — a morning routine, a daily walk, or a moment of quiet with yourself. These little habits keep us grounded when the big picture feels unclear. ( Related reading: Emotional Anesthesia – Feeling Numb and Healing ) Turning Pain into Growth Even th...

From Lover to Leaver: A Journey Through Trauma, Strength & Self-Discovery I never imagined I’d have to write this story—because I never imagined you would become a memory. We were once everything to each other, inseparable, two souls that seemed like they were meant to grow old together. But love isn't always enough. 🌧️ The Breaking Point You stopped choosing me. Not suddenly, but slowly. In the way your texts became shorter, in how our calls were filled with silence, and in the way I began to feel lonelier beside you than when I was alone. You said, “You’ve changed.” Maybe I did. Maybe heartbreak ages the heart in quiet ways. 💔 The Pain of Letting Go I tried to hold on. I convinced myself that if I loved you harder, you’d remember why you loved me. I stayed even when my heart screamed to run. I silenced my pain to keep the peace. But love should not feel like begging for attention. It should never feel like one-sided sacrifice. 🦋 The Shift One day, I woke up and realized...

Leave the Past Behind: How Letting Go Can Set You Free

  From Scared of the Dark to Peace in the Dark 🌪️ Living in Fear: A State of Constant “What Ifs” There was a time when I was afraid of almost everything. What if I fail? What if people leave? What if I’m not good enough? Fear was my default setting. I played life safely — never too high, never too deep — just somewhere in the middle. Comfortable. Predictable. Numb. But the truth is: a life lived in fear isn't lived at all. ✨ The Turning Point: When Life Gently Breaks You Open My shift didn’t happen overnight. It came through breakdowns, disappointments, and quiet heartbreaks that slowly pushed me inward. I started journaling, listening to spiritual talks, and learning to sit with my discomfort instead of running from it. One night, I whispered to myself, “Maybe I don’t need all the answers right now. Maybe I just need to breathe.” 🌈 What Helped Me Move from Fear to Peace? If you’re in that place of unease, I want to share what helped me: 📝 1. Writing My Truth Journa...